THE NITTY-GRITTY: WHAT THE ROADMAP COURSE GIVES YOU
- 12 In-Depth Weekly Lessons. Each week you'll get comprehensive audio lessons (approximately 1 hour of audios per week) and written worksheets with journaling, visioning and other exercises for you to do. The lessons are full of clear, frank guidance, plus tools to help you gain skills, clarity and confidence. .
- Fourteen Hours of Group Coaching. At the start of the course, and every two weeks after that, we come together live (via phone or video chat - so you can participate from anywhere in the world) to answer your questions and coach you through any stumbling blocks. (You'll also get recordings of these calls, so it's fine if you have to miss some of them - though it's great to come live if you can.) Many women say that getting to share the experience with their classmates is one of the most important parts of the process.
- Build Community With Other Conscious Singles. Roadmap members get access to our private Facebook group so you can connect with your class members and the women who've gone through our previous Roadmap classes (over 100 graduates now!)
- Individual Attention. Each Roadmap course is limited to 25 women. There's time for you to speak on each coaching call, and if you email us, we answer!
- One Hour of One-On-One Coaching. Use your private coaching hour at the end of the course, to chart your path forward - or use it at any point when you need extra support. Need more one-on-one time? You can add more hours at a discounted rate.
- Free Copy of our book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap For Finding the Right Partner and Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams.
Next Roadmap Class Starts May 30. Enrollment closes one week earlier or when the class fills, whichever comes first. The class is limited to 25 women.
Your investment is $597, or 3 installments of $199 each.
Still Have Questions? In That Case, Please Keep Reading!
I have to echo so many other women about how incredible the Roadmap class is. There have been so many epiphanies. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I've done a lot of work, yet there were so many areas I was still stuck in... Having it be a lesbian context makes a huge difference."
I came in a skeptic, and left a believer. The Roadmap course has improved all my relationships, and, mostly importantly, my relationship with myself.
I recently went through a breakup, and I'm definitely not ready for a relationship yet. Should I take the Roadmap now, or wait till I've healed more?
Many participants take the Roadmap shortly after a breakup, and we've found that to be very powerful timing. Taking the class now will help you heal more quickly and completely, gain more understanding of what went wrong in that relationship, and also feel empowered to create a different relationship future for yourself when you're ready.
I've been looking online and trying to date for quite a while, and nothing works. How could the Roadmap possibly help me?
We talk with thousands of women looking for partners each year, so we know the problem isn't that "she's not out there." And we've seen over and over again that the Roadmap helps women get to the real issues - and resolve them with self-compassion and powerful new skills.
For instance, it might be that your dating isn't working out because you're actually not ready yet. The Roadmap will help you understand what "readiness" really is, and help you get there.
It might be that you're not sure you deserve the love you want. The Roadmap will help you love yourself and know your own true worth.
It might be that you don't know how to recognize a compatible partner... or that you don't know how to communicate effectively while dating... or that you're too shy to put yourself out there... or that you don't know how to say No when you need to... or that you're afraid a relationship will require too much sacrifice or compromise... or, any of many other issues that we see holding women back.
Rest assured, we've helped women handle all of these issues and many, many more. If what you've been doing hasn't been working, it's time to do something different - and the Roadmap will show you how.
I'm pretty busy. Should I still take the Roadmap?
If the Roadmap calls to you now, we'd encourage you to listen to your heart! The audios, worksheets and recorded coaching calls will be yours to keep forever, so even if you can't keep pace with the group, you'll still benefit. However, as with most things, what you'll receive from the course is proportionate to what you put in. We encourage you to spend 2-4 hours a week doing the Roadmap if possible (after all, once you find the woman of your dreams, we're sure you'll want to spend at least that much time with her!)
I'm not a very tech-savvy person. Will I have a hard time with the Roadmap?
If you're reading this page right now, and you can click on a link, you should be fine with the Roadmap! Each week we'll email a link to that week's audio and written lessons, and to the next group Coaching Call (which you can attend either via computer - which we encourage, since it lets you see us and other Roadmap participants) or via phone.
I'm not sure I want a traditional relationship. Do you support alternative visions?
Absolutely! We support anything that both (or all) of the people involved want, whether that's monogamy or open relationships, lesbian-exclusivity or bisexuality, living together or not, and any other form of consensual relationship you might dream up.
Who are your Roadmap participants?
We're proud to have participants from all over the United States and, thus far, from at least three other countries. We love being international! The women in the Roadmap have ranged from age 29 to age 79. They identify as lesbian, gay, queer, bisexual, or trans. Some have been out for decades; others are just coming out. If you're a self-identified woman who loves women, or wants to, we welcome you!
When will the Roadmap Coaching Calls take place? And what if I have to miss a call?
All calls will be recorded, so it's okay if you can't attend them live (though of course it's great if you can!) We schedule them on different weekday evenings and weekend days to try to accommodate varying schedules. If you know in advance that you can't be there, you can also email us questions ahead of time, and we'll answer them on the call. .
The heart of the class is the self-paced work which will arrive in your in-box each week for 12 weeks - but the strong, supportive community of lesbians and queer women going through this growth experience together is part of what makes the Roadmap so effective!
Coaching Call Schedule for May 2018 Roadmap:
We vary the schedule deliberately to increase the odds that each participant will be able to attend some, if not all of the calls. We typically have students from all over the U.S. and Canada, and often students from other countries too. Weekend times have been chosen to accommodate women overseas!
You'll receive audio and video recordings of all calls, so it's OK if you have to miss them.
Kick-off call: Wednesday, May 30, 5:30-7:30 p.m. PST
Call #2: Saturday, June 16, 12:00-2:00 p.m. PST
Call #3: Monday, June 25, 5:30-7:30 p.m. PST
Call #4: Sunday, July 8, 12:00-2:00 p.m. PST
Call #5: Friday, July 20, 5:30-7:30 p.m. PST
Call #6: Tuesday, July 31, 5:30-7:30 p.m. PST
Call #7: Closing Call & Celebration! Sunday, August 12, 12:00-2:00 p.m.
What happens during the Roadmap Coaching Calls?
At each coaching call, you'll have a chance to check in - to talk a little bit about how you're working with the course material, what's coming up for you, any stumbling blocks you're encountering, and any epiphanies and successes you're having. We'll answer your questions and give you some laser coaching, too. Often, after everyone on the call has checked in, we have time for some role-playing. We hear over and over from Roadmap participants that it's been valuable to hear other women's questions and experiences, as well as our responses.
What if I'm not a group person, and would rather go through the Roadmap one-on-one?
We'd be happy to create a private coaching package for you, and customize the Roadmap material to best suit your needs. To explore this possibility, just email Ruth@consciousgirlfriend.com. However, we'd also encourage you to consider taking the Roadmap class and supplementing it with private coaching, since most participants find the feeling of community quite helpful.
What if the Roadmap doesn't work for me?
If you do the Roadmap work, it'll work for you! But we know that making this kind of commitment to yourself can be scary. So to help make it easier, we offer a guarantee. We invite you to register for the class and participate fully. Come to the coaching calls, listen to the audios, do the written exercises, take part in your 1:1 coaching - and if, at the end of the 12 weeks, you feel you didn't get what you came for, just let us know and we'll refund your tuition.
Final Thoughts from Ruth, the Roadmap's Co-Creator
Over and over, I've witnessed how the Roadmap class can change womens' dating and relationship lives. It's incredibly gratifying to hear women talk about how differently they approach dating now - and how differently they feel about themselves.
In an ideal world, we would all have gotten to take this kind of class as teenagers! But since that didn't happen, there's no time like the present to become a "conscious girlfriend," and open the door to the kind of dating and love you really want. It's never too late (or too early! Our participants range in age from early 20s to 70s and beyond.)
Lesbians are amazing, courageous, resourceful women. We came out of the closet, often facing discrimination and rejection, because of our deep desire to love and be loved by another woman.
Yet despite our bravery, it hasn't been easy to find out how to make that love strong, healthy and lasting. I've heard from so many women who have actually given up on love. "If I'm attracted to her, she'll be bad for me," they say. Or, "Relationships just aren't worth it."
And I get it. If you're doing the same thing over and over and it's not working, it does make sense to stop...and to learn how to do it differently! It's within your power to learn how to date wisely and love well, and it's so completely worth the time and effort it takes.
A lot has changed for our community over the last decade. Now that we are legally able to marry throughout the U.S. and in many other countries - now that, more and more often, we can truly be open about who we are and who we love - it's more important than ever to make that love strong, healthy and happy.
We can do it. You can do it! And whether you choose to sign up for the Roadmap or not, I hope that just reading this page will make a positive difference in your life.
After all, how many times in your life have you gotten to hear, "You have the power to create your relationship destiny? It's not up to chance, magic, luck or fate. You can learn how to find the right partner, and also how to be the right partner. There are learnable tools and steps to follow. You can do it, and you're worth it. You deserve lasting love."
I'm so glad to bring you this message of hope and possibility -- and I hope to get to work with you in the Roadmap, so you can go beyond hope and possibility, and actually find and create the love you want!
It feels so good that even though I haven't met my partner yet, I now have a "knowingness" and confidence that I will make a wise choice while dating - and I'm also more relaxed now in being single, since I have such great new skills in navigating anything that comes up. This is so awesome what you have done for my love life!"