A Conscious Girlfriend Class for Couples: Transform Your Relationship In Six Weeks

We're Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. & Michelle Murrain, Ph.D., and we want to help you make your dreams come true. The fulfilling love you want won't happen by accident or magic - but we have a proven path to get you there.

The Couples Communication Toolkit: Stop Fighting and Get the Love Back!

WHAT HAPPENED TO THE LOVE – AND HOW TO GET IT BACK

In the beginning, your relationship probably felt easy, magical and right. You and your partner felt close and connected without even trying.

But over time, something changed, and maybe small issues started leading to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, or fights. You might be walking on eggshells with each other trying to avoid conflict – or you might be diving in and spending hours processing, yet still feeling disconnected.

Over time, you may have started touching less, making love less, and having less fun. You may even have started thinking thoughts like, “Where did our love go?” “What happened to the person I fell in love with?” “If it feels this hard, maybe we’re not right for each other.” “Relationships are just too hard.”

We have great news for you: all of this can change.All of these things often happen in relationships – but they don’t have to!

In fact, when you learn and use the skills in the Couples Communication Toolkit, your conversations will get easy again, and your conflicts won’t have to derail your love. You’ll be able to really see and hear each other, and bring back the trust, connection and magic.

​You can get there! It just takes learning and practicing the five key skills which we’ll teach you in this six-week course.

In the beginning of the relationship, you may have done fine without these skills because your brain was in limerence (“honeymoon mode,”) which is an actual brain-chemistry high that works like a drug to smooth all the rough edges between two people.

​But over time, the high ends. That’s a normal, necessary part of the life-cycle of any relationship. And when that happens, you have three choices: break up, stay together and struggle, or learn the skills in The Couples Communication Toolkit and get the great feeling back.

DESTINATION: HAPPY, HEALTHY LOVE

  • ​Imagine never having to fight again. Instead, when conflicts arise, you’ll know how to use them as a way to get even closer and more connected.
  • ​Imagine never again having to ask “Is everything okay?” The flow of communication can be so smooth that you know exactly where you stand.
  • Imagine never walking on eggshells again. When there’s something you want to say, you say it in a way that helps your partner stay open and really hear you.
  • Imagine feeling confident, secure and trusting in your relationship, and knowing that your partner feels the same way.
  • Imagine being able to ask for what you want, hear what your partner wants, and being at ease with both your similarities and your differences.
  • Imagine having fun together again the way you used to, without the scar tissue of old pain or resentment getting in the way.
  • Imagine being able to love her deeply and well, the way you always wanted to – and feeling her love you the same way.

All this and more is possible when you learn and practice the five key skills we’ll teach you in the Couples Communication Toolkit.

Jelaya

I can’t believe the difference this has made. Instead of fighting, now we know what to say and how to really hear each other. Before, we were walking on eggshells and even talking breakup. Now things are so much better again.

Danielle G.

CG is onto something here! Michelle and Ruth help bring the 'how' into solving relationship problems that is really complimentary to couple counseling, as well as being stand alone support for women who are seeking more joy and satisfaction with their relationship. As a woman with a problem solving mindset, the tools offered by CG are tremendously helpful and empowering when trying to navigate through the heavy weight of having a deep emotional connection with another woman.

HOW THE CLASS WORKS

There are six modules in this course. In each module, you’ll get written and audio lessons that walk you through the Couples Communication Toolkit skill-building process. The lessons include written homework, practice exercises and meditations. Together, they’ll build both your cognitive understanding of healthy relationship skills, and your applied ability – meaning that doing the coursework will teach you how to implement these skills, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

​The class is designed for you to do all of the learning and exercises within six weeks, but you can also do it at your own pace. Spend more time with a given module if you need to – the experience can go as deep as you want.

​It’s ideal for both members of a relationship to do the course together (and the price is the same.) However, if only one of you wants to do it, your relationship will still receive amazing benefit when you learn and practice the five key skills.

​We offer several ways to take the course: do-it-yourself, supported, or mentored. If you choose the supported option, you’ll still work through the material at your own pace, but you’ll also receive two one-on-one or one-on-two coaching sessions from Conscious Girlfriend’s co-founder and lead coach, Michelle Murrain. The mentored version includes four coaching sessions. We highly recommend the options with coaching sessions, as it’s still much cheaper than our 8-12 session individual coaching packages, but coaching offers you help in fully applying the skills to your own situation.

​Michelle’s clients say, “You kick a--, but compassionately!” “You are so incisive – you cut right to the heart of things.” “Three sessions with you have helped us more than six months of couples counseling.” “I love your focus on staying in the present and learning new skills. It’s incredibly effective and empowering.”

​The skills taught in this course include:

    • What are healthy relationships? What do they require?
    • Cultivating Self-Compassion and Developing Self-Love - essential components to healthy relationships
    • Learning how to befriend your feelings
    • Learn to zap your intimacy-killing behavior!
    • Learn how to heal conflict.
    • Learn how to communicate so that you can hear each other

DIY

Just the basics

6 modules of audio lessons and worksheets.

Bonus Module on tools to build intimacy!

$200

Supported

Recommended

2 Coaching Sessions ($300 value!)

6 modules of audio lessons and worksheets.

Bonus Module on tools to build intimacy!

$400

Mentored

If you want to dive deeply with more support

4 Coaching Sessions ($600 value!)

6 modules of audio lessons and worksheets.

Bonus Module on tools to build intimacy!

$600

About Conscious Girlfriend


Conscious Girlfriend’s mission is to help lesbians and queer women date wisely and love well. Since our founding in 2013, we have reached thousands of women all over the planet with our powerfully effective tools for conscious love.

​We believe it’s time for women who love women to find and create the very best relationships we can – relationships filled with easy, harmony, passion and delight. Every single one of us came out of the closet because of our deep desire to love and be loved by another woman. Doesn’t it make sense to learn how to do that as well, and as happily, as possible?

​We incorporate cutting-edge attachment theory and brain science, along with tools from Michelle’s 25+ year Buddhist practice and Ruth’s years as a hypnotherapist. We also trained directly with Gay and Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving and other best-selling relationship books.

​Founded by Michelle Murrain, Ph.D. (Neuroscience) and Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. (Transpersonal Psychology), Conscious Girlfriend’s resources, coaching and courses combine science, psychology and spirit.

​There’s never been anything else like this for our community. And now, with the Couples Communication Toolkit, all the training and help we offer to our private clients can be yours at a fraction of the cost.

​We look forward to helping you transform your relationship in just six weeks!

Betsy

I’d been a student of relationships for thirty years, but I got so many new insights working with you. It’s so different, and so necessary, to have this work presented in a lesbian context.

Yolanda

Conscious Girlfriend is the best thing that ever happened in the lesbian community.

M.A.

I feel like now I’m finally prepared for something that I was never prepared for before. It makes a world of difference.

DIY

Just the basics

6 modules of audio lessons and worksheets.

Bonus Module on tools to build intimacy!

$200

Supported

Recommended

2 Coaching Sessions ($300 value!)

6 modules of audio lessons and worksheets.

Bonus Module on tools to build intimacy!

$400

Mentored

If you want to dive deeply with more support

4 Coaching Sessions ($600 value!)

6 modules of audio lessons and worksheets.

Bonus Module on tools to build intimacy!

$600