This is a guest blog authored by Dr. Amber Ault (pictured at left), a psychotherapist, sociologist, and the author of two important books on toxic relationships: The Five Step Exit and The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free of Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting On With Your Life. What makes ... Read More
We hear this story a lot, and it's a heartbreaking one. Can you relate?You fall for someone. You fall hard. She looks like everything you've ever wanted, and there's just one problem: she's not available. Maybe she's involved with someone else. Maybe they're unhappy together; perhaps she even ... Read More
We get a fair number of questions from women who are widows - that is, women whose girlfriend, partner or wife has died. If you're in that situation, you may be facing some challenges. (And even if you haven't lost a partner to death, you may still find parts of this email relevant to you.) Of ... Read More
I've talked with a couple of women this week who had ended dating relationships that started out consciously, and went deeply, but didn't end up being the right fit. And in both cases the women felt that the way the "break up" happened didn't really work for them. And I realized that this is a topic ... Read More
Have you heard that phrase? Have you ever spoken that phrase? It's one of the more common things we hear when women tell us of a breakup. The problem is, in itself, the phrase is meaningless. What does "I'm not in love with you" really mean? It can mean one of several things: First, it can mean ... Read More
Many women we talk to and work with feel as if they will never find the person they are looking for. They are discouraged, and some have even given up looking altogether. We actually think that there is someone for everyone, but there are things that get in the way. First, there are beliefs about ... Read More
Dating feels risky. It feels risky to reach out to someone and ask them out. It feels risky to put your profile online. It feels risky to be vulnerable. Dating feels risky. But is dating really risky? What are you really risking when you dive into this thing called "dating?" The actual, real risk ... Read More
Recently, I had a major episode of broken trust that I want to share with you... and offer some lessons from. I was traveling in Bali, because Michelle was going to see old friends in western Massachusetts, so I took off for warmer, tropical climes, which are not really Michelle's cup of tea. So ... Read More
We were recently introduced to "Relationship Anarchy" by a student, and we realize that it was in fact, quite in resonance with what we teach, and our own relationship. So what is relationship anarchy? The term was coined by a Swede, Andie Nordgren. The basic idea is that instead of categorizing ... Read More
Many times, we hear stories about women who left suddenly. "We'd been dating for almost a year, and I thought everything was going fine. Then she just disappeared - stopped returning my calls, texts, emails. One day I saw her at an event and she refused to talk to me." "We'd been together for ... Read More
