Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. co-founded Conscious Girlfriend in 2013. A writer, healer and teacher for over three decades, she has a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology, and studied relationship coaching with world-renowned experts Gay and Katie Hendricks, bestselling authors of Conscious Loving and many other books. She also has extensive training in energy medicine, shamanism, hypnotherapy and trauma healing. Author of seven books, including Soul on Earth: A Guide to Living & Loving Your Human Life, and co-author (with Michelle Murrain) of Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, Ruth has taught at six colleges and universities. She divides her time between Oakland and Sonoma County, CA, and works with clients and students worldwide by phone and Skype.
Michelle Murrain, Ph.D., was a co-founder of Conscious Girlfriend and the co-creator of many of our programs. Michelle has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience, a 30+ year Buddhist meditation practice, and attended seminary. She brought a unique combination of scientific, spiritual and technical knowledge to Conscious Girlfriend, with particular passion for helping women, especially women of color, develop self-love and self-compassion. In 2017, after a lifetime of gender dysphoria, Michelle realized that the next step in her growth and healing was to transition gender and live as a man. The person formerly known as Michelle Murrain now continues his journey of consciousness under the name Maxwell Pearl. However, Michelle’s legacy lives on throughout this website and in the many Conscious Girlfriend materials she co-created (and Max continues to participate in CG behind the scenes.)
And now, it’s all about you.
Are you ready to become a Conscious Girlfriend?
A conscious girlfriend is a lesbian or queer woman who gains – or embarks on the process of gaining! – the tools, skills and understandings that lead to truly happy intimate relationships.
We’re passionate about helping women become conscious girlfriends, because that’s what it takes to build and maintain relationships that are deeply intimate, passionate and joyful – relationships that “just work,” rather than feeling like a lot of work.
Why “conscious?” Because becoming more conscious – more observant, more aware, more thoughtful – about what happens both inside of you, and between you and your girlfriend – is a huge first step to becoming able to create your relationship destiny.
In other words, being conscious is all about having more choices – and making the choices that bring you happiness, rather than drama, fights and heartbreak!
Whatever you’re struggling with, we’ve been there, in one way or another – and we can help you get where you want to go!
The sad truth is that if you don’t take steps to develop new skills and ways of being, your old patterns are likely to repeat… and repeat… and repeat, no matter who you meet.
But once you learn how to be a conscious girlfriend, a whole different relationship world can open up for you.
We’re here to help!
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(And the fine print: While the resources and tools we share emerge from our extensive personal and professional experience and research, the information on this site should not be construed as – or used in place of – professional psychotherapeutic or medical assistance.)