Lesbians and queer women are amazing, strong, brave, resourceful women. We’ve often overcome enormous obstacles just to get to be who we are, and love the way we love.
Many of those obstacles come from outside of us, in the form of relatives, friends, social institutions and religions that don’t accept us. But sometimes they come from inside us, too, because even though we’re smart, determined and worthy of love, we haven’t always known how to date wisely and create strong, drama-free relationships. And it’s not our fault! But we do have the power to learn what we need to learn.
Deep inside, do you dream of finding a soulmate, a great girlfriend, or an amazing wife? Do you hope for happy, lasting love? If so, you’re not alone. Most lesbians and queer women do. Yet you may also have started to wonder whether this is even possible… and if so, you’re not alone in that either.
How can you create a relationship that keeps feeling good even long after the honeymoon period, filled with trust, laughter, closeness and ease? How can you sustain real passion, while also supporting and loving each other day to day for the long haul? How can you find her – the woman who will accept you just as you are, while also bringing out your best self? Is she even out there?
If you’ve had these kinds of questions, we get it. Lesbians have so few role models of healthy love. The little information out there is generally geared to straight people, and requires translation. Dating and relationships are such incredibly important parts of life, yet no one teaches us how to do them in ways that are smart for our hearts, or that truly work.
Think back to when you were a teenager. Imagine if people had said to you, “No need to learn how to drive. When you find the right car, you’ll automatically know what to do.”
No wonder the lesbian relationship “roads” are so scary out there!
But Conscious Girlfriend is here to change that.
Our courses and programs help you learn the skills you need to have in order to be able to navigate safely toward the relationship destination you really want (and have fun along the way!)
You can learn to develop and articulate your relationship vision (both the big picture, and the nitty-gritty of what you want your relationship to look like – and how to talk about that while dating!)
You can learn how to heal your heart from past relationships, and truly be ready for love.
You can gain the confidence to ask a woman out – and the resilience to handle it without taking it personally if she says No.
You can recognize the red flags that mean she may not be right for you, and how to find out more rather than just ignoring your gut and going full-speed ahead.
You can learn how to communicate what you want and need in healthy, intimacy-building ways.
You can learn the right (and wrong!) ways and times to take your relationship to the physical level.
You can come to understand the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and learn the most important factors to look for in someone else (and develop in yourself!) in order to create a strong, lasting relationship.
If you want happy, healthy, lasting lesbian love, but it’s eluded you until now, we believe our 12-Week Roadmap to Successful Dating & Lasting Lesbian Love will change your life. It’s already helped hundreds of other lesbians and queer women – and it can help you, too.
There’s absolutely nothing else like this for our community.
Why a Roadmap?
Because it’s hard to get where you’re going without a map!
We often hear women say, “Lesbians don’t know how to date.” All too often, we either stay completely platonic forever (maybe because both women are waiting for the other one to make something happen!), or else jump into bed – and into a relationship – much too soon (the U-Haul on the 2nd date phenomenon.)
Neither one of these approaches leads to the love you want. Instead, you’ve got to learn how to date as a way of “trying on” a potential relationship. Wise dating is dating that helps you truly get to know someone – and yourself – so that you can learn whether or not you’re compatible.
Dating with clarity and confidence is a learnable skill – and the Roadmap course teaches it to you! But we also teach you the skills you need in order to keep a relationship happy and healthy – skills like recognizing your own feelings, and communicating them in ways that make your connection even stronger.
The truth is, you can’t really find the right partner until you know how to be the right partner, too. That’s why the Roadmap covers both: you’ll learn how to find her, and how to build the relationship you really want to have.
The power is in your hands! Women often think love is a matter of luck or destiny – but in fact, you create your relationship destiny through the choices you make, and the actions you take. It’s up to you to learn how to choose a partner wisely and create strong, happy, healthy lasting love.
No one can do it for you. But no one can stop you, either!
No matter what you’ve been through – dating disasters, painful relationships, excruciating breakups – your past does not have to determine your future. Yes, if you keep on doing what you’ve always done, history does tend to repeat itself. But the Roadmap teaches you how to approach dating and love in a whole different way, to bring about different, happier results.
Be a proud part of the change. Lesbians can finally get married! Who ever thought we would see this day in our lifetimes?! Now, isn’t it time to learn to have the kind of relationship your heart always told you was possible – the kind of love you wrestled your way out of the closet to have? The Roadmap is here to help.
In addition to offering programs that help you learn to date wisely and love well, Conscious Girlfriend is an amazing community of growth-oriented lesbians and queer women. A current student just told us, “I was looking for exactly what you offer. I didn’t even think it existed!” And it didn’t – until now.
In addition to the Roadmap, Conscious Girlfriend offers singles and couples coaching, live events in the SF Bay Area, free videos and teleclasses, and much more. Reading our book can also be a great place to start!
By the way, we are totally inclusive. Whether you identify as lesbian, transgender, bisexual, gay, stud, butch, boi, femme, genderqueer, androgynous, same-gender-loving, or by some other label, you are welcome. Whether you’ve been out of the closet forever, or are just coming out now, if you’re a woman who loves women, or wants to, we’re here for you. Whether you’re 18 or 80, or anywhere in between, consider Conscious Girlfriend your online home.
Just want to email us? That’s fine too. We’d love to hear from you, and we answer our mail.
Conscious Girlfriend director Ruth Schwartz, Ph.D., plus our stellar lineup of guest teachers, look forward to supporting you in finding and creating the happy, healthy, lasting love you want and deserve – and then keeping it strong.
Get involved with Conscious Girlfriend to learn how to take charge of that destiny. Finding and keeping happy, healthy love alive is not just a matter of luck or fate. It’s all about the choices you make, and the actions you take. We’re here to help you take charge of your relationship destiny.