Lesbians: Are You Ready To Find — Or Deepen — The Love Of Your Life?

lesbian relationshipsHi there!  We’re Drs. Ruth Schwartz and Michelle Murrain, and we’re starting a movement…

…to help single lesbians find and create deeply fulfilling relationships,

and help coupled lesbians grow, deepen and heal their partnerships.

Wherever you are on your relationship journey, we’re here to help you make more love!

Love that honors you just as you are, and also supports you in growing.

Love that feels healthy, expansive, and safe.

Love in which you feel seen, heard, accepted, adored and respected – and have the joy of seeing, hearing, accepting, adoring and respecting your beloved partner, too.

If you haven’t known how to find that kind of love — or how to grow it, nurture it and keep it alive and thriving — you’re not alone, and it’s  not your fault! And we understand.

Between the two of us, we have advanced degrees in Psychology, Neuroscience and Theology, we’ve taught at eight universities, and we’ve published 12 books…but no one ever taught us how to have this kind of love. (And we suspect no one ever taught you, either!)

We have a deeply intimate, joyful long-term partnership now — but it took us decades of trial, error and pain to learn the skills we needed. Now we’ve created a powerful set of tools that blend science, psychology and spirituality — and we’re on a mission to make love a whole lot easier for you!

Could you benefit from working with us?

Ask yourself:

  • Do you ever lose yourself in relationships – letting go of what you feel, want and need until it’s too late?
  • Are you frustrated and confused that you can’t seem to find or create the love you most want?
  • Do you ever start to wonder whether deep, lasting love is even possible?

 Single women:

  • Do you need help distinguishing between chemistry and compatibility?
  • Are you sick of dating the “wrong” women – but unsure how to find the right one?
  • Do you worry that you’re unconsciously pushing love away, or re-creating painful patterns?
  • Do you need tools to help you date consciously, choose wisely, and build a strong foundation for intimacy?
  • Would you like to make sure your next relationship will be truly happy and fulfilling… and stay that way for the rest of your life?

Coupled women:

  • Do you and your partner bicker, fight, or get locked in power struggles?
  • Do you struggle to really see, hear and understand each other?
  • Does one of you frequently want more closeness, while the other keeps pushing for more space?
  • Are you ready to banish “lesbian bed death” in favor of  lesbian bed LIFE?
  • Need tools to help you navigate new challenges with depth and love?

If you answered Yes to any of these questions — or if you just need help healing your heart and/or your relationship — we’re so glad you’ve found us!

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