Lesbians: Get Ready For the Love of Your Life – And Then Find Her!

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Most lesbians and queer women long for happy, healthy, lasting love. Yet no one ever taught us how to find the right partner and create a strong relationship.

No one ever taught us to date, either. It’s crazy! Imagine if they’d just said to us, “There’s no need to learn how to drive. When you find the right car, you’ll automatically know what to do.”

No wonder the lesbian relationship “roads” are so scary out there…

We’re Ruth & Michelle, and we’re here to change that!

We’ve been together 9+ years, and we have an amazing relationship – deeply intimate, sweet, easy, respectful, filled with laughter and love. But it took us a long time, and a lot of heartbreak, to get here.

Between the two of us, we have advanced degrees in Psychology, Neuroscience and Theology, we’ve taught at eight universities, and we’ve published 12 books…but no one ever taught us how to have this kind of love. 

That’s why we’re so passionate about helping other lesbians and queer women learn to date wisely and love well.  

If you want happy, healthy, lasting lesbian love, but it’s eluded you until now, we believe our 12-Week Roadmap to Successful Dating & Lasting Lesbian Love  will change your life.

We’ve put everything we’ve learned from our own past relationship “train wrecks,” and the deeply fulfilling marriage we have now, our academic training, our work with two of the best relationship coaches in the world, and our experience coaching hundreds of lesbians, to teach you what you need to know.

There’s absolutely nothing else like this for our community.

Why a Roadmap?

It’s important to know how to date with clarity and confidence (and we’ll teach you how.) But if you’re not also well-prepared to create a healthy relationship and keep it strong, all the dating in the world won’t get you to lasting love.

The truth is, you can’t really find the right partner until you know how to be the right partner, too. That’s why the Roadmap covers both: we teach you how to find her, and how to build the relationship you really want to have.

The power is in your hands! Women often think love is a matter of luck or destiny – but in fact, you create your relationship destiny through the choices you make, and the actions you take. It’s up to you to learn how to choose a partner wisely and create strong, happy, healthy lasting love.

No one can do it for you. But no one can stop you, either!

We know you can do it. We’ve been through it all – dating disasters, painful relationships, excruciating breakups. Now our relationship is better than anything we could ever have imagined – but it’s not just because we met the right woman. (If we’d met 10 years earlier we would have broken each other’s hearts!) It’s because we gained the right skills, and what’s what we’ll teach you, too.

Be a proud part of the change. Lesbians can finally get married! Who ever thought we would see this day in our lifetimes?! Now, isn’t it time to learn to have the kind of relationship your heart always told you was possible? No matter what your past has been like, if you’re willing to learn, you can create lasting love too. We’re here to help.

We’ve built an amazing community of growth-oriented lesbians and queer women. A current student just told us, “I was looking for exactly what you offer. I didn’t even think it existed!” And it didn’t – until now.

In addition to the Roadmap, we offer singles and couples coaching, live events in the SF Bay Area, free videos and teleclasses, and much more. And we’ve got an amazing Conscious Singles Weekend Retreat coming up in September!

We look forward to supporting you in finding and creating the happy, healthy, lasting love you want and deserve – and then keeping it strong. 

By the way, we are totally inclusive. Whether you identify as lesbian, transgender, bisexual, gay, stud, butch, boi, femme, genderqueer, androgynous, same-gender-loving, or by some other label, if you’re a woman who loves women, or wants to, we’re here for you. And we have women aged 18-90 as part of our community. Seriously.

Just want to email us? That’s fine too. We’d love to hear from you, and we answer all our mail.

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